,

Harassment du jour

Harassment du jour

As a white woman alone in Namibia, I expected harassment would be part of my life.  But that expectation didn’t make it any easier to experience.

 

If you are willing to look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.  –  Yogi Bhajan

 

That period of time he’s referring to must be longer than a Peace Corps service, because I don’t feel any closer to letting the harassment wash over me.  Every day in Namibia harassment takes a new form:

 

“I’m coming to visit you in your room”

 

“Man you are so beautiful, I want a white lady like you”

 

“You white people are so self important, you’re a terrible person

 

“You want me, we are getting married”

 

The most common advice people give me is to respond with humor.  This sounded like a good idea, until I realized I have a hard time finding the hilarity in being harassed because of my sex or skin color.  I’m not going to pretend I think it’s funny to disrespect people you don’t know on the street.  I’ve decided I’m being truest to myself when I tell them off.  To this end I had a friend teach me, ‘/ha xu te, sora tetsge ha’, which means ‘leave me alone, you are disrespecting me’ in Damara.

The people shouting after you on the street are cowards, which is why walking in a group decreases the frequency of harassment.   You might say that’s common knowledge, but I like to experience something for myself before I can believe it.  I have now confirmed it’s true, because the worst harassment I’ve experienced has been while walking alone.  To minimize my exposure I hide at the hospital as much as I can.  Nevertheless, I have experienced more harassment here in the past year than in the all the other years of my life combined.

I’ve become better at avoiding situations where I’m likely to be harassed, but once in awhile someone slips through my defenses.   I look forward to returning to the U.S. where I imagine, perhaps a bit romantically, that I can feel safe walking down the street again.

weens
Meet the author / weens

3 Comments

  • Christy Jefremow

    I do not like this at all. Stay in your safe pack. Don’t give these people the power to harass you. I’m sure each time it happens it stings. Never let your guard down. You are smarter than them. One day they may come to you to help then. Being the good person that you are you still would.
    LOVE you and can’t wait for you to return home!! Xoxo

  • Barbara Damon

    It is no sign of cowardice on your part to be a realist and protect yourself. Harassment is scary. I believe the best thing is not to respond to their baiting. Accept the fact that you DO NOT have the same freedom you have in the U.S. Be smart. Be careful. We love you and looking forward to having you home.

  • Sidnie J

    Geez Christine! Be careful out there. It’s not fair to be treated that way. I wish you all the best. Stay safe!!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>